We had a very heavy frost, possibly an actual freeze, a couple of days ago. We lost both our sweet and sour cherry crops as well as most of our peaches, which is pretty sad for our family. Fortunately, we had not yet planted much in our garden that would result in total crop failure.
Our potatoes sustained some frostbite, so I spent some time this morning cutting back the dead, damaged leaves so that the healthy parts of the plant can keep on growing. We had mulched them pretty heavily the day before the forecasted frost, but we hadn’t completely covered everything. Our broccoli plants and sugar snap pea seedlings still look a little rough, but I think they’ll rebound okay, too.
One of the things I respect about gardening is the reality that I am really not in control. There are often certain things I can do to protect my various endeavors, but there is always an element that is completely beyond my grasp. In my opinion, this is a healthy, humbling realization. No matter what resources I have at my disposal and what energies I invest in all that I hope to accomplish, my ability to control every aspect is an illusion. In order to have peace of mind, I’ve got to be okay with that. I have to know when to keep working and when to let go.
Relationships have the same limitations. We can only do what we can do. Love. Forgive. Pray. Repent. Not every relationship is going to work perfectly. Not every season is going to be an easy one. At some point, we’ve got to be okay with that if we want to maintain peace of mind. We can only do what we can do, and then we can ask God’s grace to cover over our mistakes. That’s where the peace comes in. We do what God calls us to do. We work on the dead, damaged places in our own hearts, giving room for God to grow the healthy places into something living and productive. We also have to allow for others to work on their own lives…or not. We must relinquish the illusion of control.
I confess that this is a difficult concept for me–one that I struggle to learn time after time. I can only do what I can do. Love. Forgive. Pray. Repent. Fortunately, if I shift my focus to these things, there is always more than enough to keep me well-occupied.